I wish I had a dollar for every time I heard someone tell me “I want to lose 10lbs.”
Not that this is a bad thing to want. But I’d rather hear someone say “I want to start going to the gym because I want to lose 10lbs.” Do you understand the difference? The first is an outcome, the latter is an action…and you can’t have an outcome without an action.
We live in a culture that is obsessed with outcomes but consistently neglects the fact that outcomes occur as a result of work.
As a result of this mindset, we turn into people who want something for nothing and fall into traps of self-defeat because we haven’t achieved what we wanted despite not having taking steps to achieve what we want.
How logical is that? It isn’t logical at all because you can never have results without taking action.
You need to shift from focusing on “what you want” to focusing on “what you can do” – and by doing this you are guaranteeing yourself results. You are creating a process, whether this is for your personal fitness, your career, your relationships, etc. Processes are the pathways to success.
Hearing someone say “I want to lose 10lbs” means nothing to me. Hearing someone say “I want to go to the gym five days per week, drink 3L of water a day and, and eat vegetables at every meal” is much more tangible and valid. It creates a sense of urgency and priority.
When we neglect to prioritize our process – we doom ourselves. Having priorities is how you get stuff done – and if you have no priorities than you should reasonably expect nothing in return. Every single day we can choose to be engaged in something that will bring us closer to where we want to be. Your priorities and your actions are a reflection of your values and your true desires. And you need to own your actions.
By owning your actions, you remove yourself from being a victim and you give yourself power. You don’t feel like a failure if you aren’t seeing results. You go back, change the plan, and keep trying because you are in control of how you feel and what you do. You understand that you are the only person who can take the necessary action to keep moving forward. You own your process. And when you own your process that is when you succeed.
“Action expresses priorities.” – Mahatma Ghandi
What steps are you taking today to get what you want?