Browsing Tag

results

Why you reached your goal and still feel miserable

Fat Loss, Mindset, Training By August 3, 2015 Tags: , , , , , , , , No Comments

I want to talk today about feelings. Especially in regards to fitness and achieving results in fitness.

I continually see people who get induced into fitness because they want to lose weight or change the way that they look – which is perfectly fine.  But usually the reason they want to change the way they look is because they want to change the way that they feel.

So then what you can typically see is that this person will take on an exercise regime and have success with it, but once they achieve that success they’re still not satisfied. And this happens because despite changing how they looked on the outside and achieving that objective measure they didn’t bother to change how they were feeling on the inside or to change the things in their life that are preventing them from feeling the way that they want to feel.

To me the solution is instead of focusing on losing 10lbs, or 20lbs, or getting bigger biceps, what actually needs to be done is just creating more activities or experiences that make you feel the way that you want to feel – whether that can be achieved through the training process or just by changing the things that you do on a day to day basis.

Meaning if you want to feel more confident do things that make you feel more confident; like learning a new skill or doing things that showcase your competency. If you want to feel sexier than do things daily that make you feel sexy.  If you feel insecure or uncomfortable find things and do things that will make you feel secure and comfortable, surround yourself with people who care about you, and work on ridding yourself of negative feelings and fill your life with the actions that directly elicit your desired feelings.

We essentially shoot ourselves in the foot when we don’t this because we end up looking for feelings in objects and quantifiable outcomes instead of just having the actual experiences that will make us feel how we want to feel.

As coach, I can’t promise you that when you lose 10lbs you’re going to feel sexy or confident but I can tell you that if you do things that make you feel sexy or confident whether you lose 10lbs or not, you will feel how you want to feel and you will always feel that way regardless of whatever state you are in physically.

Your level of satisfaction or completeness in life is completely dependent on what you feel versus what you have.  The sooner you realize that, the less time and effort you waste on pursuing things that aren’t going to give you what you really want or only give you a false sense of security and satisfaction.

Have you struggled with feeling satisfied in life before? Are you always longing for something else but aren’t quite sure what it is? 

Leave your comments, stories and feedback below, I want to know more about you. 

Also if you’re looking for resources to help you become more in tune with your true desires and feelings, I highly reccomend Danielle Laporte’s The Desire Map.

 

Share:

Do you want something for nothing?

Mindset, Training By June 28, 2015 Tags: , , , , , , , No Comments

I wish I had a dollar for every time I heard someone tell me “I want to lose 10lbs.”

Not that this is a bad thing to want. But I’d rather hear someone say “I want to start going to the gym because I want to lose 10lbs.” Do you understand the difference? The first is an outcome, the latter is an action…and you can’t have an outcome without an action.

We live in a culture that is obsessed with outcomes but consistently neglects the fact that outcomes occur as a result of work.

319474

As a result of this mindset, we turn into people who want something for nothing and fall into traps of self-defeat because we haven’t achieved what we wanted despite not having taking steps to achieve what we want.

How logical is that? It isn’t logical at all because you can never have results without taking action.

You need to shift from focusing on “what you want” to focusing on “what you can do” – and by doing this you are guaranteeing yourself results. You are creating a process, whether this is for your personal fitness, your career, your relationships, etc. Processes are the pathways to success.

Hearing someone say “I want to lose 10lbs” means nothing to me. Hearing someone say “I want to go to the gym five days per week, drink 3L of water a day and, and eat vegetables at every meal” is much more tangible and valid. It creates a sense of urgency and priority.

When we neglect to prioritize our process – we doom ourselves. Having priorities is how you get stuff done – and if you have no priorities than you should reasonably expect nothing in return. Every single day we can choose to be engaged in something that will bring us closer to where we want to be. Your priorities and your actions are a reflection of your values and your true desires. And you need to own your actions.

By owning your actions, you remove yourself from being a victim and you give yourself power. You don’t feel like a failure if you aren’t seeing results. You go back, change the plan, and keep trying because you are in control of how you feel and what you do. You understand that you are the only person who can take the necessary action to keep moving forward. You own your process. And when you own your process that is when you succeed.

“Action expresses priorities.” – Mahatma Ghandi

What steps are you taking today to get what you want?

 

Share: